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SECRET LOVE - REVEALED January 28 2019, 0 Comments

To burn with desire and keep quiet about it
is the greatest punishment we can bring on ourselves.    

 

Experiencing impossible love is stressful. We're motivated to savour and maximize positive emotions, and hide negative ones. So, why do we hide love? In a revealing article What does it hide, we're informed of the many reasons we choose to keep our love secret: disinterest in your gender, taboo, forbidden, illegal, religion, incapable of returning your affection, attachment to another, geography. And we begin to fantasize.

Secret love is chaos. The rules are different. We hide. A special language is created. We find the language to express this complexity in The Arts.

    

Rene Magritte   The Lovers                                                    Artist Unknown Stolen Kiss

Viewing the surrealistic painting by Rene Magritte 'The Lovers' can arouse complex emotions in us. We are invited to look closer for hidden meanings. The unknown creator of 'Stolen Kiss is surely conveying secret feelings of love.

 

     

Films about secret love such as Damage (1992) and Her (2013) remind us that some kinds love need to be protected in a secret world.  

 

 

Notes on A Scandal               You Don't Know Me

Although stories about secret, hidden, forbidden love saturates literature, Suzanne Gardner, in her article: Literary love affairs: 6 novels about forbidden love, tells us about six love stories. A New York Times Book Review article asks What Are the Last Literary Taboos?

 

Here's a heart breaking list of songs about secretly being in love. The seemingly simple words have power because we understand, without wanting to, the fragility of having a secret love. "You Don't Know Me" sung by Ray Charles, can break your heart.

 

One way to overcome the agony of being unable to express your love openly is to send a card, any time, but especially on Valentine's Day. During the 1700s in England, people started sending Valentine cards anonymously, simply signed "Your Valentine." Today 150 million Valentine's Day cards are sold. That's a whole lota love! These cards and others are now available on my website. It's never too late to express your love. Valentine's Day is coming soon...

Hasta luego amigos.

Val


All Love Is Good Love January 09 2018, 0 Comments

 

I’ve asked myself, ‘If love is so ancient, why is it always new?’. If love makes us act silly, how can it also move mountains? If love hurts, why do we need love’s balm? And why so many sappy love songs? It’s a mystery! — and undeniable… And if we’re lucky, then smart enough, that mystery will call us…and when we answer, it can be the beginning of something magical.


But before we get into magic words, modern psychology has broken this human condition into seven types of love. Gary Chapman has also had great success in sharing his book, The Five Languages of Love. But is that how we experience it?

The kind of love that asks us to send Valentine’s cards is romantic love. It is the love of great novels. It has inspired music, dance, poetry and theatre. It is, at the same time, the ailment and the elixir. It is the cause and the cure of great heartache. There are many great verses through time’s line which capture the essence of love which transcends gender, race, religion. Here is one I love.

"Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."


Witchery sometime claims to do what wisdom cannot. Here’s a great link from Huffington Post from a few years ago which outlines the five easy ways to creating love spells.


What better way to create your own love spell this Valentine’s Day than by sending a beautiful card. There are eleven new cards for you to share. Order now to get them out on time for Valentine's day.


Hasta luego,
Val